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Change Looks Like Failure First!
Change can be hard. One reason that change is so challenging is that we misunderstand what change actually looks like and we also misunderstand the time that is required for change. I have read many books on change. There is the standard - it takes 30 days to create a new habit. If we are talking about making our bed daily...
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Do You Use Shame to Teach?
Here is the definition of shame - a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. When we are children, we find ourselves shamed by adults around us. We take that shame and learn, over time, to shame ourselves. Here is the sentence that accompanied the definition of the word shame – “I tried...
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The Good, the Bad, and The Ugly of Parenting
Every parent is made up of a measure of good, a portion of bad and occasionally a dollop of ugly. I don’t care how good a parent you are; this is true. The problem that we run into is focusing on any one part. Many parents focus on the bad. They forget that there is a large portion of good. Others...
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No Matter What, You Can!
We Often Believe We Cannot Do Something Until We Do It My husband bought a pergola for our patio. It was a necessity because the west sun is so hot that you can’t even turn the doorknob in mid-summer. The problem is that it had to be anchored into the cement. It had already blown over three times. We didn’t have the...