You’ll Jinx Yourself!

The flu season is here! So are the cold season and the pneumonia season. A few Sundays ago I stopped at a neighbor’s home to drop something off. We chatted at the door for a few minutes and guess what came up? You guessed it – how many people are sick.

As I was leaving my neighbor said, “Be careful and don’t get sick.” I replied, “I won’t. I never get sick.” Her immediate and emphatic reply was, “Don’t say that. You’ll jinx yourself!”

I’ve been thinking about that and here is what I know for sure – Our voice is the most powerful voice in the world, for us. What we say out loud to ourselves over and over again is what our mind and body begin to believe. I repeat whenever possible, all winter long, “I never get sick.” And you know what, I rarely do get sick.

Recently, I was at an event with almost 500 other people. Of course how much illness there was in the city came up a few times. In one particular conversation, one of the staff said, “Well I’m impervious. I never get sick.” I believed him because what we say to ourselves is really powerful.

You’ve all heard this old saying or something like it, “What you say is what you get.” It’s true.

If you talk negatively about your children you will see them in a negative light no matter what they’re actually doing. If you say “My kids are driving me nuts,” they’ll drive you nuts. If you say “I can’t stand my kids today,” or “My kids are so sloppy, messy, noisy, naughty, and so on,” that’s what you’ll get.

If you speak unkindly about yourself you’re going to feel bad about yourself. If you talk negatively about your circumstances and possibilities the outcome will be more negative than you would like.  “I’m bald so I look older.” “My hips, thighs, tummy, whatever, is too fat.” “I have so many wrinkles.” “I am not a fun mom/dad.” “People just don’t like me.” “Nothing goes my way.” “Life is so hard.” “I’m just no good at math.” “I can’t seem to hang on to a dollar.” “My families too poor, there’s no way I can go to college.” “I could never learn to do that.”

Many of you may have a difficult time accepting that we draw to ourselves the things we focus on and say to ourselves. I used to have trouble believing it myself. In fact, the thought that is was all my responsibility made me so mad! But I couldn’t shake this new idea and over time I came to know the truth of it.

If we want better outcomes, we need to watch our words. Say what you want, not what you don’t want.

Here are some steps to help you generate more positive outcomes in your life:

  • Take responsibility and stop blaming
  • Decide to think the best of others
  • Choose words wisely
  • Practice thinking and speaking in more positive terms, no matter how the situation looks.
  • Don’t stop practicing no matter how long it takes to see results.

There are others but these will get you started.

Know how we really jinx ourselves? We do it when we talk negatively about ourselves, our lives, our circumstances, our possibilities and the people we come in contact with. If you want better outcomes, if you want to be happier, if you want life to feel and be better then begin confessing what you want.

“I never get sick!”

??? Feedback, please. Are you where I was some years ago. Does this make you mad? Or have you moved along this path far enough to have experienced what I am talking about? Let’s talk about it.

P.S. You can learn more about taking control of your self-talk in my new book Becoming a Present Parent, Connecting With Your Children in Five Minutes or Less. Knowing the difference will help you let it be enough. You can also receive a chapter from the book on Touchpoints, creating points of connection rather than having points of contention, FREE by visiting becomingapresentparent.com It can be life-changing for your family. I promise!

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4 responses on “You’ll Jinx Yourself!

  1. Melissa

    Over a decade ago, a friend taught a class that I attended on Gratitude. I decided to start a gratitude journal and write down what would truly make me happy and what about it would make me happy. I wrote down things that I had already experienced glimpses of (joy in our family, creating meaningful and powerful things, experiences that were empowering) and wanted to experience all the time. I phrased everything positively. I wrote, and then I went on living. Because I was clear about what I wanted (things that would bring my family and I joy, experiences to strengthen us, etc.), I became more aware of opportunities around me that would help those things happen. I also met people with similar goals and learned from them new ways to help these things happen. You will progress as much as you are open to progressing. What you think and say will lead to what you are able to do. Positivity rocks!

    1. Mary Ann Johnson Post author

      This is great Melissa. I have kept a Gratitude Journal in the past and currently have a journal that I record all the wonderful ways I am supported every day but this is a new take that I think is very interesting. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Raynae Redman

    Oh yes I truly have learned this. I’m one person, like you, who rarely gets sick. I know this to a large is because I believe in being a person who doesn’t get sick. I make it a mental priority to be happy and have a healthy outward attitude. I don’t lay in a bed if I get a cold. To my knowledge I’ve never had the flu in my entire life either but I keep that mentality going. I’ve also subconsciously seen my goals and have figured out a way to achieve them with just my mind and lots of practice. So I know what you’re saying here and I believe it all the way.

    1. Mary Ann Johnson Post author

      Way to go Raynae. This is a life-time work. The more we practice the better we get. But the key is to keep practicing and don’t quit even when it feels like we might not be getting a handle on it.

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